F = Fishy Business

While most regions of India shun non-vegetarian food during auspicious occasions such as weddings, Bengali weddings are incomplete (indeed unacceptable) without non-vegetarian food. Fish, in particular, is very close to the heart of the true Bengali. In fact, it is considered inauspicious for a married woman to refuse to partake fish. After the wedding, the bride and groom are served a lavish meal comprising of a numerous items including a variety of fish preparations.

But what is perhaps most remarkable (and weird) is that before the wedding, along with clothes and other gifts that arrive from the groom’s family to the bride’s house, is a whole fish (usually Rohu or carp), decorated like a bride complete with vermilion and nose-ring!

Fishy gift

However, as now more and more intercultural marriages are happening, in case the bride’s family is not comfortable with such fishy practices, sweets in the shape of fish are considered an acceptable alternative.

Thought for the day: When you fish for love, bait with your heart, not your brain:- Mark Twain

And I too am fishing – for comments 😉
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34 thoughts on “F = Fishy Business”

  1. So, if I showed up with a box filled with fish-shaped crackers, Swedish fish (red jellies), blue-white gummy sharks, and “gone fishin” hard candy, it would be an acceptable gift? (0.0)
    Maybe with 2 toothbrushes and some dental floss tied to them to look like fishing poles?

    Sir Leprechaunrabbit

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    1. That one is easy – eat it up 😉 I am sure there must be but my suspicion is that the groom’s family just wants ensure fish on their menu (just in case the bride’s family cannot afford to buy fish!) 😀 Thanks for dropping by Archana.


  2. I thought this was so interesting! You did a great job of sharing the tradition and then how modern day life has improvised while still honoring that tradition (as weird as it is 😀 ). And I have to say, Mark Twain was such a wise man! ❤

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    1. Hello and thanks for dropping in 🙂 Glad you like and we are like that only – the weirder things are the more determined we are to honor it 😀 Mark Twain – love his quotes 😉


  3. These posts are so interesting!!! My Mum is from India but she’s Anglo and so she had a catholic marriage. I never realized how many sweet little things go into Hindu weddings (and we’re only on ‘F’ – lol). Even though I’m not a fish-lover, I couldn’t resist chuckling at the fully dressed fish with nose-rings. Hahaha.

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  4. Yessss- I remember the shock that reverberated through my mallu household when a large fish arrived with sweets and fruits etc on the morning before the wedding! Good memories-thanks for reminding me:)

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  5. Wow!…decorated with vermilion and a nose ring…as beautiful as the bride …Lol!…who gets to eat it though?…the bride? 🙂

    This A-Z challenge theme is getting more n more interesting by the day..hadn’t known such rituals(exotic) exist….and your presentation makes them more appealing.

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  6. Lovely post. “To save a fish from downing” is something I’d never heard of before. Love the sentiment behind the well packed raw fish. But, tied with a red ribbon is a bit too mach!

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